V Day - D Day - Sex Stories

V Day - D Day

... let's just get this over with", as she rolled her eyes, sat down, and crossed her arms.

"I feel you pulling away." Again with the eye roll. "I know I have brought this up in the past, but I am extremely worried. I want to tell you exactly what I am feeling, and what is on my mind."

"We have already talked about this...", but I cut her off. "Sam, can you please just listen and not interrupt!" That seemed to make her demeanor change from annoyed to angry.

"I have been worried about us, about our marriage, about our family. I started doing research on-line from accredited universities and well respected experts. I wanted to understand what is happening with us, and why we seem to be in a rut. I really wanted to find some answers about how we can address it. I read all kinds of articles and research studies, even those that dealt with divorce." That got a raise from her eyebrows, and she looked ready to speak, but I held my hand up and continued.

"I came across a study that was done with wives who had cheated on their husbands, and they broke it down in stages."

"What!!! Are you accusing me of having an affair!!!?" She was out of her chair, but I was too.

"NO!!! I AM NOT!!! Would you please sit down, stop interrupting, and let me finish!!!" We both sat, but she was quite upset. I continued "In the first phase..." but I was still in an elevated voice. I paused a second, took a deep breath, calmed down and said "In the first phase these wives said that in spite of ...

... having everything they wanted: career, kids, home, and loving husband, they hit a point where they felt like something was missing. They lost the spark. They lost the excitement. They didn't blame their husband or kids, they blamed themselves. They thought something must be wrong with them. During this phase they started pulling away from their husband. They believed they needed space, and if they could get a little space they could figure it out. They also started to avoid having sex, making excuses not to. They had lost their desire for sex. The felt like it was a chore, like laundry of cooking. They would still occasionally have sex with their husband, but they no longer enjoyed it. They mainly did it because they were afraid if they didn't, their husband might cheat. They felt almost blackmailed into having sex."

'During this phase, their husbands felt the distance and tried to pick up their game. They tried being more attentive. They tried communicating more. They tried to be more romantic. They tried to bring the closeness back again. But that is exactly what the wife did not want. The efforts actually had the opposite effect, and pushed the wife further away. Some of these women said they felt like they were being smothered."

"Eventually, many of these wives moved to stage 2. It started with attention from other men, even if it was platonic. They started feeling the spark and excitement they were missing. They began feeding on the flirting and attention. This is ...