To Catch a Sub - 005 - Sex Stories

To Catch a Sub - 005

... times, but we are not perverts."

"Enlighten me."

"What we do is an expression of ourselves and our beliefs. We have traditions, rules, and standards. We aren't about hurting people, per se'. What we do is about safe, sane, consensual expression of our desires and needs. Those can seem strange to many people."

"So, you do use torture and stuff to get what you want."

"Not like you think. Remember what I said about safe, sane and consensual. =Who do you think has the control in a dominant/submissive relationship?"

"Ugh. The dominant I would suppose."

'And you would be wrong. In a SSC relationship. It is the consensual aspect that controls everything. We use safe words. It is understood that if a submissive is uncomfortable, beyond his or her limits, or for any reason, utters the safe word, the dominant will instantly stop whatever is happening to determine why the safe word was used. That very fact means that the submissive is the real control, the final arbiter of whatever is happening. ``

Anthony was now listening carefully.

"Then what I have been reading and seeing on all these websites is not a true representation at all of what really happens."

"It is about as close to the real thing as a house cat is to a tiger. Related, but definitely not the same."

"What about the chat sites? I know my wife has been visiting one and is involved to some degree with people there."

"She needs to be very careful. Those sites are populated mainly by ...

... individuals who are out to manipulate and take advantage of poor weak misinformed people, women in particular who can be exploited. We call these types trolls because they hide in the dark recesses and caves, avoid the light, and prey on anyone weaker than they are for their own pleasure and profit."

"What do you think of my plan to bring my wife back to our marriage?"

"She probably hasn't left the marriage. The fact, according to Peter, is that she is still living her life, taking care of her kids, seems devoted to you for the most part, and remains, at least in some way, loyal to you. What I suspect is that she is seeking some sort of repressed sexual need. If you can find a way to fill that need, without destroying her self-esteem in the process, you could make this work."

"What are your suggestions?"

"You must be very careful. You need to make sure that her needs are fulfilled without her realizing that you are the one doing it. Only after she is convinced that whatever personality you chose is what she needs can you hope to transform that relationship into your marriage."

Anthony was feeling overwhelmed and distraught that he had undertaken a challenge he couldn't complete. Angela continued.

"There is one other thing to consider. If she is looking for a BDSM component in her relationship, you are going to have to supply that for the rest of your lives together. If you cannot play the role of dominant or master to her submissive or slave, she will be right back on ...