To Catch a Sub - 004 - Sex Stories

To Catch a Sub - 004

... why I was so confused. She has exhibited the classic signs of someone who is cheating but without some of the most critical parts. No phone calls. No trips or visits. Nothing like that."

Anthony nodded.

"But why didn't she just talk to me about it?"

Peter was the one with that answer.

"She is probably ashamed of what she is feeling. She loves you, obviously, and feels like that she is already cheating on you in some fashion, that what she is doing is degrading or immoral and she must hide it from you to spare your feelings. Guilt can be a strong motivator."

Anthony got a puzzled look on his face.

"We sort of experimented with this stuff when we were in college and just after we married. I thought she knew I was interested in it. Then the kids started coming, business took off, and life got in the way. What should I do? Should I confront her and get it all out in the open?"

Peter thought for a moment.

"I'm not sure that is a good idea. The data shows that individuals in this process are in fact, very psychologically fragile. They are walking a fine line trying to keep their normal life intact while feeding their addiction without being compromised. If you suddenly upset that balance, she could go either way. Unfortunately, data show that many tend to fall on the wrong side of the fence. When they are suddenly outed and don't have the mental crutch of trying to have their normalcy, they abandon it all together and go the other way."

"So, what do I ...

... do? You are telling me that if I don't do something, she will eventually take this to some point where she is actually cheating with someone else. If I try to do something, it could make matters worse. Is there not some solution that helps our family?"

Peter shuffled his notes and then looked at Anthony.

"There has been some research into this with some positive results. In those cases where these situations were stopped before it turned into a full-blown case of cheating required that a substitution be made." Anthony looked puzzled.

"Substitution? You mean to substitute one addiction for another.?"

"Not exactly. I would say it really isn't a substitution, more a redirection."

"How so?"

"The best-case results have come about when someone close to the subject steps in and refocuses the subject's interests and desires toward them rather than searching for it outside the marriage."

Anthony shook his head trying to wrap his brain around what was being said.

"I don't think I understand."

Peter spoke succinctly and directly.

"Your wife wants to be dominated sexually and, from what I have seen of the videos she is watching, she is on the extreme side of what she wants. She will continue to feed that addiction and it will continue to grow until she wants to actually experience her fantasies. You must give her what she wants. You must find a way, without destroying her self esteem and causing her to lose her respect and love for you, to put yourself in the ...