Slut Wife - Katie in Charge Pt. 03 - Sex Stories

Slut Wife - Katie in Charge Pt. 03

... past acceptance into genuine enthusiasm, it will probably never work. However, if he does get to that stage of wanting rather than simply accepting it, he will usually crave kinky dirty stuff that you may not have even thought of yet. It is not uncommon for the cuckold's appetite for the kinky aspects of the lifestyle to exceed his wife's."

"Seriously....because I have thought of a lot of dirty stuff, lol?"

"Yes, I bet." Said Roxanne with a smile. "In any event, the key is to make sure you get past any pre-conceptions you have about what a man wants. In some ways a cuckold is like a bottom in the BDSM world. Lots of people would look at them and think 'why would you want to be bound, gagged and flogged?'. But just because it seems unusual doesn't make it any less true. And denying them that because you don't get it isn't not what they want."

"I get that in principle, but how do I apply that to my Derek?"

"That is the challenging part. From what you have described it sounds like you are in charge, so this is a female led relationship. Is that correct?"

"Yes, that is the case for sure."

"Great. That is not a prerequisite, but I think it helps pave the way when managing this type of lifestyle. Since you are in charge, you don't want to be letting him decide how things go or you lose control, and it isn't as enjoyable for him."

"Not enjoyable for him? How so?"

"Because sweetheart. He wants you to be in control. That is part of the thrill for a submissive. ...

... The first time he ate a cream pie for you the fact that he did it for you at your behest is a large part of what made it thrilling for him."

"Seriously?"

"Well obviously I don't know him, but from what you have told me I'd say it is highly likely."

"So, how do I know what he wants?"

"Building that communication is essential to making sure that your enjoyment and his enjoyment are in sync. You want to be able to prioritize your sex life without leaving him behind or ignoring him. Take things in small steps and see how he responds. You can talk to him about what turns him on without negotiating it."

"That seems like it is a big issue?"

"Well, it can be. Even in a submissive role, men tend to want to turn a sexual situation towards what they want and make you a part of their narrative, so you do need to continue to keep them in their place. It need not be harsh. Just be direct and firm. It sounds like you are already doing that."

"Ok. I think I get it."

"That is all you can expect Katie. Fundamentally you need to figure out what resonates with your cuckold and sync that up with what works for you. Take responsibility for both of your pleasure and don't shortchange either one of you. That means not only can you be selfish but sometimes you must be selfish and that is what he will want and what is best for him. Since he is submissive, he counts on you to set the balance that couples usually settle by negotiating their path forward, often including friction. ...