To Catch a Sub - 008 - Sex Stories

To Catch a Sub - 008

... 36-year-old brunette with waist length hair. I am naked and have a shaved crotch. My breasts are 36DD, full, firm, and with large red nipples and areola.

SensualSadist -- You don't have to do that when you come into my room.

Newandwilling -- Really? I thought that was standard.

SensualSadist -- Maybe for the wannabe troll Doms. Real dominants don't require that kind of crap. We are more interested in developing a relationship than playing inane games.

Sasha read that last and got a strange look on her face. This was such a radically different approach than she had ever encountered that she didn't know exactly how to react.

Newandwilling -- Yes Sir. Do I also call you Sir or Master?

SensualSadist -- Sir is a sign of respect. It is polite when you are talking to a dominant. Master is usually reserved for a dominant to whom you have given yourself as a submissive. I don't think we have gotten to that point. So, Sir will be perfect.

Newandwilling -- Yes Sir. If I understand, I will only call you Master if you own me?

SensualSadist -- Correct for the most part. In a real life BDSM relationship we don't usually refer to ownership. There is no true ownership of another person. You, as a submissive, may elect to offer or give yourself to a dominant. That is usually preceded by some sort of negotiation that includes living arrangement, limits, safe words, and requirements. Only then would you offer a dominant the gift of your submission.

Sashe read his ...

... message with growing interest. It seemed that there was a lot to learn about this lifestyle that she had no idea existed. She thought about her answer before she began to type.

Newandwilling -- A Gift? What do you mean by offering a dominant my gift?

SensualSadist -- In a proper BDSM relationship, one that is both healthy and respectful, the submissive is the one in control. She or he, gives the gift of their submission. Since it is a gift, it can be taken back or revoked at any time by the submissive.

Newandwilling -- I don't get it. If I am submissive, how can I be in control?

SensualSadist -- Because you can take back that gift at any time. In a proper BDSM setting, a safe word will stop any scene immediately. A submissive's simple act of saying no, is respected and acknowledged. It is one of the three tenets of BDSM. Safe, Sane, and Consensual. If you don't consent, then it is not an act of submission, and you retain the right to control yourself.

Newandwilling -- That sort of flies in the face of what I have seen and heard in other places.

SensualSadist -- That's because you haven't been where serious and knowledgeable BDSM players carry out their lives and their interests. What you have found, for the most part here, are a bunch of play-actors who think they are dominant but are really perverted trolls who are preying on the ignorance of others.

Newandwilling -- So you think I am ignorant.

SensualSadist -- No. Not at all. I think you may be a bit ...